Ask what support would help before deciding on someone else’s behalf.
Leave room to speak
The NHS recommends listening without judgement and not forcing someone to talk or seek help. Keeping in touch and offering practical help are possible starting points. Your role may be to accompany someone, not to find an immediate solution.
Make the offer specific
Example wording suggested by Malade: “Would you like me to listen, or shall we think about a next step together?” Or: “I can bring a meal on Thursday. Would that help?” A limited offer leaves room to accept, decline or ask for something different.
If they do not want to talk, you might say: “All right. I’ll give you some space and check in again.” Choose a promise you can keep. Avoid turning a quiet moment into an interrogation.
Keep your own boundaries, too
Support needs to account for your needs as well. The NHS highlights looking after yourself when helping someone else. You can explain your availability without closing the relationship: “I can call this evening, but I won’t be available overnight.”
If you are worried, encourage professional support. If there is immediate danger, contact local emergency services. This article addresses everyday support; it is not a substitute for crisis care.
Sources & further reading
Public sources consulted for this synthesis. Organisational ideas and example wording are Malade’s suggestions. Some links are in French.
General information for adults, not a diagnosis or personalised medical advice. Launch edition: no independent clinical review is claimed.